Little Prince and Little Princess, how dare you forget who you are. How dare you forget your worth. You were made out of excellence and uniqueness. You were made to bring something to the universe that was a part of what you inherited when you were conceived. How dare you lack the notion of self awareness and love. You weren’t born with hatred. You weren’t born without a purpose. So how dare you have the audacity to lose yourself in this contradictorial society.
I remember being a child and not having a care in the world. When we are children we are fearless and have no notion of colorism, size, hair types and the list goes on. We were free to try all things and not worry about the consequences of our actions. We learned by trial and error. We lived in our own fairy tale adventure.When we were ready to crawl we just crawled and fell many times but we had that drive and determination to master the skill of crawling. We wanted to be mobile and discover the things around us. We had a knack for curiosity about how the world worked around us. We knew the world was full of opportunity that needed to be discovered. Some children did the military crawl, some children scooted on their butts, some scooted on one leg. It didn’t matter as long as the child master how to get around.
Once we mastered the art of crawling it was now time to walk. Mind you, I skipped the steps of holding our heads up, rolling over and learning to sit up on our own. However, I’m sure you get the logistics of where I’m headed. We were filled with uniqueness, destination and purpose. And then just like that that drive of discovery, purpose and tenacity diminished not only by societies dictation but generational family dictation. All of which is a learned behavior (self hate, racism, colorism, etc). As in my home and many homes we are taught in home first what to do and what not to do. Then once you leave home you are then smacked in the face with trends of whats in, whats hot and whats not.
Now you’re in a state of confusion, a self- discovery battle, more so a mental uproar. Because you lost direction. I remember that in my home when my natural hair was considered unmanageable and when I wanted to wear my coils it was considered as if my hair wasn’t done. And if I wanted to wear my hair it should be straitened, braided up or weaved up. Why wasn’t my hair good enough? Why now in the media is natural hair the in thing. Women of color hair has always been full and long. Why diminish that light to fit society. Shouldn’t we have been taught that regardless of it all we aren’t defined by our hair and we have a choice to wear it the way we want. Its our unique quality and a form of self expression.
Hair is just one example. Now we have fads of sexuality, body types, religion, spirituality and the list goes on. We are a product of our environment and the things we allow to feed us. Many of our behaviors are due to being sponges and soaking the lies in and not being able to filter what is truly beneficial for our souls.
I challenge you to take a moment and breathe. Get to know yourself again. Dig deep within yourself to redefine your purpose and stop allowing society to drive your soul. Its okay to say NO, this does not ALIGN with my destined purpose or with who I am. I challenge yourself to separate from anything that does not add value to your life and to stop allowing society to have so much dictation on how you should define your self. Change begins within. Peace Kings and Queens!
Memoirs of a Mother Queen, Uncensored! 